Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Random Jam: George Michael "Careless Whisper"


One of my favorite tracks from George, a.k.a. the original Robin Thicke (though he gets much love too:). Get into that 80's hair, five o' clock shadow and cross earring in the pic above and get into "Careless Whisper" below

Illinois Rep. Greg Harris: "Marriage Equality Bill Wills Pass"


Illinois may join the other 12 states in legalizing gay marriage, according to Rep. Greg Harris, who predicts a marriage equality bill will pass by the end of the month.

Harris, the chief sponsor of the bill said he will "absolutely" call a vote on it by May 31, and "it's going to win" according to The Windy City Times. The bill passed in the Senate on Valentine's Day, and Illinois Governor Pat Quinn has vowed to sign it.

Former President Bill Clinton has also lent his support. "Since the days of Abraham Lincoln, Illinois has stood for the proposition that all citizens should be treated equally under the law,” President Clinton said in Tuesday’s statement. “Lincoln himself came to Springfield in search of opportunity, and he dedicated his life to securing equal opportunity for all citizens. I believe that for Illinois and for our nation as a whole, in the 21st century that must include marriage equality.”

Multiple Anti-Gay Attacks After NYC Rally



This is terrible. Just hours after a rally against anti-gay violence, a nightlife promoter was assaulted in in lower Manhattan on Monday night. The attack, which is still under investigation, happened at Avenue D and E 4th Street in the East Village.

The victim, Dan Contarino, is a former promoter of a popular Friday night party at Shampoo nightclub in Philadelphia. Witnesses who came to Contarino's aid say the attacker kicked him while yelling anti-gay slurs. Contarino posted a photo of himself on Facebook (pictured above) and gave status updates:


"THANKS FOR CALLS.... GAY BASHED LAST NITE.... back from small surgery.... CHEST XRAYS THIS AM.... suspect still at large... police n media waiting to interview me... U JUST WANNA CRY N MOVE ON…."

As well as, "UGH…. THIS IS JUST AS BRUTAL AS the ATTACK…. 3 hours… 8 detective interviews… now waiting for Hate Crimes Unit main interview… THEN BACK TO HOSPITAL…."

A gay couple was also attacked late Monday night in the Soho neighborhood. "The couple was walking on Broadway between Prince and Houston streets at about 5 a.m. when two men started yelling anti-gay remarks in English and Spanish. The victims are Hispanic. The men were both punched, and one suffered an eye injury, sources said. Police said two men, 32 and 33, were arrested and face a charge of assault as a hate crime."

Both attacks follow the murder of Mark Carson, who was killed in Greenwich Village after being shot in the face by 33-year-old Elliott Morales. Carson, who had recently relocated to Brooklyn, was only 32 years old.

The recent attacks bring the total of violent anti-gay incidents to seven in the past month. I can't believe this is happen in New York City, especially in gay-friendly neighborhoods.

Monday, May 20, 2013

Mad Men Season 6 Ep. 8 'The Crash'

Photo Credit: Jordin Althaus/AMC

As always, spoilers lie ahead...

Goodness where to start? Last night's Mad Men was without a doubt the strangest, trippiest, and outright hilarious episode in the show's history."The Crash" started with a literal one involving Ken driving an Impala packed with crazed Chevy execs, and after a shot of "energy" from a good doctor, became a physical and emotional one, as the men at SCDP all found themselves flaming out, flashing back, or in the case of Ken, doing a little dance in the face of darkness.

Mad Men at its core has always been about the unraveling of Don Draper (I know, a groundbreaking revelation right?), slowly peeling back the layers of his cool exterior to revealed the tortured soul underneath. Since Don's not exactly talkative, at lot of the unraveling has been via flashbacks while high on weed ("The Hobo Code"), being death's door sick ("Mystery Date"), drunken confessions ("Long Weekend," "The Flood," "The Suitcase"--hell almost anytime Don's knocked a few bottles back and his world's in upheaval) or impulsive road trips that reveal parts of his complicated past in the flesh (visiting Anna Draper and her clan in "The Mountain King" and "The Good News").

But rarely, if ever, have we've seen Don's inner messiness so outwardly on dispaly as it is in "The Crash." Though he's not the only one; after Jim Cutler, a.k.a Roger 2.0, arrange for the SCDPCGC staff to get shots to cope with the ferocious creative demands of Chevy, the boys pretty much lose their shit. Stan challenges Jim to a race through the office, before challenging the lesser minions to arm wrestling contests. Later he kisses Peggy and, after getting a polite brush off, admits he's grieving over the loss of a relative in Vietnam, but ignores her sage advice to allow himself to feel his pain and goes on to bang some random girl who turns out to be Wendy, the late Frank Gleason's daughter, in the office, while a gleeful Jim Cutler looks on.

Peggy's advice to Stan struck me as a little disingenuous and ironic at first; after all, this is the same woman who took Don's advice to act like having a child never happened and ran with it. But on second thought, just because she pushed it out of her mind in the immediate aftermath doesn't mean she didn't allow herself to feel the pain and truly move forward later. Along with her continued effort to build a real, honest home life with Abe, this is another way Peggy maybe striving to be more emotionally mature than her former mentor. Pretending something didn't happen and compartmentalizing your inner demons means you never really face them head on, as Don's repeated falls into the emotional abyss over the past six seasons have shown us. Though in his case, there is a lot compartmentalize, and another series of flashbacks to his whorehouse childhood gave another piece of how the child became the father of the man.

We learn Don, while fighting a cold, was given the motherly treatment by Aimee (being spoon-fed soup, getting tucked in and the whole nine) then got seduced and deflowered by her, before being humiliated and beaten by his loveless stepmother after she found about it. So let's get this straight: Dick Whitman's birth mother was a prostitute, his stepmother was a harsh disciplinarian who regularly referred to him as a whore child, and the woman who was first maternal towards him was a prostitute who then became his first sexual experience. After which he was beaten and berated by his stepmother as trash for engaging in. Sweet God, no wonder Don has issues about women, viewing them all with a mix of lust, distrust, contempt and the hope they can somehow rescue him from his own misery.

Why else would he be pining at Sylvia's door, when we haven't gotten to see any other facets of this woman's personality aside from being Catholic, anti-abortion and prone to feeling guilty after a few rounds of  hotel S&M? Though judging from her little speech about the mutual trust involved in extramarital affairs, I do wonder if her dalliance with Don was her first time at the adultery rodeo.

But I digress. Hyped up on what looks to be some type of speed, it's doubtful any woman--or anybody for that matter--would want to deal with the babbling, incoherent mess Don devolves into, rifling through old campaigns as he tries to string together a Chevy ad campaign driven by visions of Aimee and Sylvia, and sporadically spouting off pseudo-intellectual drivel that fails rile up anyone who's not riled up on drugs (i.e. Peggy). Finally passing out in his living room after being awake for an entire weekend (or maybe it was the sight of seeing Betty and Henry in his house--turns out a robber came in posing as Don's Grandma Ida) he regains sanity just in time to see Sylvia in the elevator. "Busy" he replies when she asks him "How are you?" Though the real punch in the gut comes when he calls Sally to assure her he's okay. "I asked her everything I know and she had an answer for everything.," Sally says. "Then I realize I don't know anything about you." Ouch, but them's the brakes when you keep everyone in your life, including your kids, at arm's length.  He advises her to forget about it--oh Don, have you learned nothing--and takes the blame for leaving the door unlocked for the robber to get in.

Don hangs up, goes to Ted's office--whose own world unraveled with the death of Frank, his long time partner and friend--and basically throws Chevy into his lap, falling back on his creative director title. "Every time we get a car this place turns into a whorehouse," Don says on his way out, washing his hands of any responsiblity. In the moment it's obviously a reference Wendy's activities with Stan and the general weekend insanity, as well as Joan's Jaguar sacrifice, but it can also apply to the latter's aftershocks; Peggy's initial departure, Lane's suicide, and having to tap dance (shout out to Ken Cosgrove) around Herb's gross demands. But could facing the reality that his children's safety was violated also have a role in pulling Don back from the brink? Only time will tell.

--Other Thoughts

--Ken breaking out into a tap dance routine rivals Pete and Trudy's Charleston tour de force in season three's "My Old Kentucky Home," as the best of display of showmanship ever on Mad Men.

--Nice to see Betty getting back to her fighting weight and bottle blond fabulousness. Though I do wonder how she would've turned out her black bob.

--The scene in Don and Megan's apartment with the robber was filled with tension, fear and uncertainty. It felt like things could have gone very, very south in a nanosecond. On the surface, it seemed like Sally should've been able to see through Grandma Ida's mountain of crap, but as she said, she knows nothing about her father. Who's to say he wasn't raised by or didn't at some point know a black woman named Grandma Ida or by a pack of wolves?

--Roger to Don: "You face looks like a bag of walnuts."

--Bobby to Sally: "Are we Negroes?"

--Ted's "I'm fine thanks for asking" to Don and Jim was nice call back to hobbled Ken saying the same thing to him at the start of the episode, proving Ted isn't above being thoughtless and self-absorbed when it comes to work.


Friday, May 17, 2013

In Tip Topping Shape


Any gay with an Internet connection and more than ten minutes to burn knows Youtube is littered with videos educating novices on the art of good bottoming. But what about the tops? What is to become of us as we build or refine our sexual skill set?  No need to worry, as Wet Guy and his friend Corey Corey are sharing their expertise, with discussions on foreplay, learning your bottom's hot spots and so on. Get into the two videos below.


Puerto Rico Senate Approves LGBT-Inclusive Anti-discrimination Bill


Puerto Rico has approved a sweeping anti-discrimination bill that would ban discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity in housing, employment, public accommodations and government services. The bill passed by a vote of 15-11 in the senate, and will head to the Puerto Rico House of Representatives.

The news comes just after music superstar and Puerto Rico native Ricky Martin urged his home country to extend equality to the LGBT community. "The same rights for each and every citizen of Puerto Rico is what we're asking for, and that's what we hope to achieve — we want justice and peace," wrote Martin in Spanish in a press release on his blog. "Puerto Rico must join the countries of the world that are at the forefront in human rights and equality

San Juan Mayor Carmen Yulin Cruz recently issued a mandate that the city's police department provide equal protection and access to resources for domestic violence no matter their sexual orientation or actual or perceived gender identity. A ban on gay adoption was barely upheld by the Puerto Rican Supreme Court in February.

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Washington Florist Counter-Sues State, Says She Has A Right To Discriminate


Well look who's decided to play martyr. A Washington florist who refused to provide flowers for a long-time customer's wedding because he is gay and was subsequently sued by the state, is now counter-suing, claiming the state violated her religious freedom.

Barronelle Stutzman cited her relationship with Jesus Christ as the reason she refused to sell the customer flowers, even though her actions violate Washington's consumer anti-discrimination law. The case has gained traction among marriage equality opponents, with some Washington Republicans pushing a bill that would allow businesses to discriminate against LGBT customers. Which basically sounds like a big smoke screen for people to hide behind instead of saying "Gay/bi/transfolk make me feel icky and are sinful according to my ancient book, so I don't wanna deal with those people."

If this woman truly feels gay marriage is wrong or a sin, then that's her right. But--damn, I sound like a broken record--as a business owner she has to answer to the secular laws of this state. Would we even be having this conversation if she was refusing business from black or Jewish people?


Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Food For Thought: Monifah


At the end of the day, what is the most real thing is that I'm in a relationship...why wouldn't I share one of the happiest areas in my life? Why can't I and why wouldn't I? It wasn't a big deal. We need to get over ourselves. Especially as a black woman, it's a double-edged sword being a black woman in a same-sex relationship because it's so taboo in our community, I just thought it was high time. I mean, come on!

--Monifah on being an out R&B singer 

The Riddle of Homophobia


What has existed since the dawn of time yet is illegal in 76 countries and incites violence and discriminatory treatment on a daily basis? Being gay.

That's the message of the United Nations human rights office's new anti-homophobia video "The Riddle," which features a diverse collection of LGBT people asking the simple yet power question. "Every nation is obligated by international human rights law to protect all lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people from torture, discrimination, and violence," says Navi Pillay, the U.N.'s High Commissioner for Human Rights. 

"The United Nations has one simple message to the millions of LGBT people around the world," says U.N. secretary-general Ban Ki-Moon. "You are not alone."

Watch the video below.
 

Nevada Governor Expected To Sign Trans-Inclusive Hate Crime Bill



Nevada may be close to passing trans-inclusive hate crime legislation. A bill is currently heading to the desk of Governor Brian Sandoval's would add crimes based on a person's gender identity and expression to the state's hate crime laws after the state assembly passed it 30 to 11 on Tuesday.


'"This does not afford victims special rights," openly gay Assemblyman Andrew Martin said Tuesday according to the Associated Press. "This is a statement of what our society is, and that we will not tolerate the systematic targeting of individuals who are historically disadvantaged groups."'

People who commit hate crimes would be subject to penalties for the actual crime committed, in addition to motivation based on their bias, according to the article."

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Monday, May 13, 2013

Mad Men Season 6 Ep. 7 Recap: 'Man With A Plan'

Photo Credit: Michael Yarish/AMC

As always, spoilers lie ahead...

Latest week's "For Immediate Release" saw the inevitable merger of SCDP and CGC (they have to decide on a new name; I mean the cost of putting all those letters up on the door alone...), in an effort to compete with the big boys. With the merger of any two parties, there are bound to be growing pains, casualties and unforeseen challenges, and "Man With A Plan," dealt with those themes, as well as the idea that both parties have their own plans and agendas simmering just beneath the surface.

Don's relationships, both with Sylvia, his new partner Ted, and to a certain extent Peggy, undergo their own power struggles. The episode opens with Don in the elevator, going down to the lobby. The elevator stops on the Rosen's floor, opening up to a suitcase and hat and letting Don (and us) get an earful of Sylvia screaming at her husband. Apparently the good doctor has taken a job in Minnesota that isn't sitting too well with her. We never see them (which IMO adds to the fight's ferocity-I guess Don's "use your imagination" pitches have rubbed off on me) but basically she accuses of him selfishness and only caring about his career, and snaps at him to "take some money" before a bunch of (change? a piggy bank?) crashes against the wall.

Later she calls him at the office, and tells him "I need you. And nothing else will do." For a man who is obsessed with needing to be needed and needing to be wanted, its music to the ears. Sylvia thinks she's just engaging in a little harmless flirting, but she's really signed the death warrant for her marriage; not only has she given Don the green light to take his emotional investment in this affair to the next level, she's unwittingly given him permission to get his own controlling hooks in her. For now, it's taken the S&M shape of being order to put his shoes on for him, staying in a hotel room for days on end and wearing a red dress (whore alert!) then taking it off for another go around at his command.

She does end the hotel affair after having a dream about Don dying in a plane crash (more on that in a minute), comforting Megan at his funeral and going home with her husband. "Let's go home," she tells him, stroking his pensive face, claiming shame has made her see the error of her ways (and also insinuating he has none since he wants to continue their tryst). And she doesn't look back when she exist the elevator in their building. But it's notable she said "Let's go home," not "I'm going home." And while Don didn't see the conflicted look on her face when he uttered a soft "please" for her to stay, we did. She may have closed the door on the affair, but intentionally or not, she's left a window open that Don will definitely try to crawl through. Things can't (or they better not) end with her simply walking away. Even Don's not enough of a smooth operator to get away with a dalliance this stupid and brazen. By the end of the episode, he's tuning Megan out while she chats away about vacation plans on the couch, and doesn't even bother to comfort her while she cries watching footage of Bobby Kennedy being shot. She probably thinks he's in the detached state of mourning he falls into whenever national tragedy strikes, but little does she know he's grieving over something else entirely.

Meanwhile at the offices of SCDPCGC, Don's wrapped up in another game of dominance with Ted. Ted unknowingly provokes Don when he mentions he can fly to a meeting with Mohawk in his own private plane, and again when he criticizes him for being forty minutes late to a creative meeting about margarine. Don offers an olive branch in the form of alcohol; Ted tries to play like he can drink with the big boys--or the boys with livers of steel--but this is Don Draper we're talking about, and soon Ted's splayed out on his couch, listening enraptured while Don spiels some country-home cookin' fantasy and drunkenly asking Peggy and everyone else what they think of the '68 election.

Round one goes to Don, but Peggy's not happy about it, telling Don she hoped Ted would rub off on him, not the other way around. "He's a grown man," Don snaps when she makes a crack about his legendary drinking. "So are you," Peggy says, but she might want to give that same talk to her other boss.  After talking about Don's mysterious nature and elegant cool to Frank Gleason in the hospital, Gleason gives some sage advice to "let him win the first few rounds. He'll tire himself out." Cut to a cool and calm Ted flying his plane to the Mohawk meeting while a rattled Don tries to read a book he took a Sylvia. Round two Ted, but these little battles are just symptoms of what may later turn into a bigger conflict as Don tries to keep the office atmosphere under his domineering, capricious thumb and Ted tries to mold it in his more optimistic, collaborative image. And Peggy will ultimately have to choose a side if Don and Ted can't find a way to work with and not against each other.

Ted and Don's power plays--along with their decision to go to the Mohawk meeting without him--have left Pete feeling like the odd man out. And life has thrown him a curve ball in the form of his mother suffering from dementia; the two never got along, so it's not surprising he tells his secretary Clara that she can burn in hell; but having to take of her alone (his brother Bud's already done his part, and his wife Judy already took one for the team by getting a towel snapped in her face)  is affecting his ability to be present at work, feeding his already insatiable insecurity that he's being lost in the merger shuffle. Of course, if he hadn't blown up his marriage to Trudy by throwing her father's infidelity in her face and perhaps tells his partners about his mother's illness, he might have had some help and get some leeway in the office. But by circumstances both self-inflicted and out of his control, he's now in a vulnerable position, and must fight to keep his spot at the table, as other employees like Marge--so long, we never knew ye--and Burt Peterson are getting the axe.

Speaking of Burt, the whole scene with Roger firing Burt Peterson felt off to me. Roger's almost always flippant, but rarely purposefully cruel, and the aggression he displayed toward Burt seemed very out of character for him. I didn't expect Roger to be in tears saying "I hate that we had to do this," but I wasn't expecting him to fire the man with such glee either--unless there was unspoken beef between the two, which, by the looks of the "previously on Mad Men" flashback, there wasn't. So your guess is as good as mine. After viewing the episode a second time, it may have been Roger was threatened by Jim's glowing remarks about how much a client loved Burt. Though even that's kind of a small thing for Roger to get bent out of shape about.

Also, Bob and Joan's little jaunt to the hospital (she had a cyst on her ovary, don't worry, our girl's fine) felt disconnected from the rest of the episode to me. I realize the whole thing was designed to show Bob is not only a first rate ass-kisser but also a smooth manipulator and liar whose skills and "plan," whatever that is at this point, ultimately saved him from getting the boot, but it felt like the writers were trying to smash his character into the theme instead of him blending in seamlessly. I think his storyline would have worked much better if he played some kind of hand in helping Pete out in his current dilemma, as he's already weaseled his way into his good graces. Don't get me wrong, I'll take all the Joan I can get, but her and Bob taking a side journey just felt contrived to me.

All in all, "Man With A Plan" wasn't one of my favorite Mad Men episodes, but it did set up several plot lines and offering a peek into some interesting character dynamics that could pay off big time down the road.

Other Thoughts

---Where the hell was Dawn?

---Loved Joan's mother's line about younger men not being threatened by strong women. If anyone should be the first settler in Cougar Town, it's the woman responsible for bringing Joan Holloway into this world.

--Sadly, being canned by the same guy twice isn't that uncommon, both then or now when mergers take place. At least Burt Peterson got to fire off this gem on his way out to Bob. "As a first order of business, I recommend you stick your head between your legs and kiss your ass goodbye. Oh Burt, why didn't you ever write copy? I could just see the "Kiss Your Ass Goodbye" tag line for Belle Jolie Lipsticks back in the day.

--Peggy to Don: "Do you want me to answer that?" when Dawn's phone rings. That should've been a clue that she wasn't 100 percent happy with this merger.

--Though we just met him, like, an episode ago, I really liked the scene between Frank Gleason and Ted in the hospital. The two actors did a great job of making you believe these two men are friends who have been in the creative trenches together for decades.

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Florida High School Football Player Comes Out


Loved seeing this over at Rod 2.0 and had to post it here. NBA player Jason Collin's groundbreaking coming out is inspiring other athletes at all levels to share their own stories. The latest is 17-year-old Leo Washington of Hollywood, who is the co-captain of the Hollywood Hills High School football team, and openly gay.

Washington, who transferred to the school after enduring bullying at his previous school in Georgia, is described as the "best defensive lineman" on the  district champion's team. According to Miami CBS 4, Washington "had several opportunities for football scholarships, but he said in college he’s following his other passion. He’s getting a degree in fashion."

As Rod notes, what makes Washington's story even more compelling is he doesn't fit into the uber-masculine stereotype of a football player; he's as comfortable in a pair of shoulder pads and a helmet as he is carrying a Michael Kors bag. Yes ma'am! Watch the report below.

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